ReadingRainbow
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11-30-11 02:08 PM - Post#142841
In response to AllenConsumer
You are right that we have to teach them as much as we can, and control their environment as much as we can. And I didn't express myself quite the way I intended with "expect the worst..." What I mean is that we can't ever sit back believing that we have taught them enough, or that they are completely prepared for the world. We have to be on the ball, prepared for what stupid things the kids might do despite all we've taught them and hope we can prevent it before things go all pear-shaped. I don't mean to expect the worst of my child; I mean try to anticipate the worst situation (when they rebel, or just flat out make a stupid mistake) and pray that I can stop it.
My son was a wonderful child, youth deacon and drummer at his church, involved in many extracurricular clubs and sports with his school, so smart that he had to take the SAT at 12 to better measure his intelligence, and an all around good person. Who would ever expect him to get so angry that he'd roll out of the car? Now I know that is a possibility with a child, so I can add that to the massive list of things I warn my daughter about.
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ReadingRainbow
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12-01-11 04:27 AM - Post#142870
In response to ReadingRainbow
My husband (not the father of my son) thought of a better way of explaining things: Kids can't be expected to react the way we adults we do. Never make the mistake of expecting a 17 y/o to react the way a 37 y/o will. We can go out on an a date and do most of the right things. A 17 y/o won't (not by a long shot) and we would be doing a disservice to ourselves and our teens by expecting them to. I think that's the best way of looking at things. 20 years of experience will make all the difference, and no matter how much we try to help our teens--nothing will make the difference quite like years will.
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WebDeb
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12-03-11 12:56 PM - Post#142953
In response to AllenConsumer
Very well said!I couldn't agree with you more!! 
My daughter, who is sixteen told me that a parent (a mom) was allowing a "sleep-over" with both boys and girls if you can believe it!
I've noticed, you either have the parents who are the I'm "cool-with-it" types, or, I'm just going to close my eyes and blame everyone else for my kid's behavior.
It's amazing just how lax some parents are when their kids become teenagers.
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